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&goofbitternessmarriageisn'ttheoionshipthatneedsfive'srequiredwithour，friends，workmates，neighborsarangers.Infaaionshipsurvivewithouttheoxygenive'snotanoptioyforpeoplewhoareintothatkindofthing;it’sauniversalyforrelationshipsandforyourowhandsanity.
Someofusmaythinkthatwe'vebeenhurttoodeeply，ortoooften，tive.Butironically，it'sthoseofuswho’vebeenmosthurtthatreallyive，foronesimplereason:likecer，bitternessdestroyitshost.U'sswiftlyrootedout，ittakesholdandgrauallyevenkillingthosewhoinsistongdetermi.
Forthetruthisthatunlesswefive，weeverrecover.Ourwoundswilluetofesterandheaeseproverbputsit，“Whoeverseeksrevengeshoulddigt>
Takiepforsomepeivenessfeelsimpossiblebecausetheyhaveogoaboutit.Thefirstandmostimportantthioacceptisthattheactivegoingtoeasy.Infact，itwillprobablybethehardestthingmostofuseverhavetodo.
&allyunfairthatweshouldhavetivewhenwe'retheoneswhohavebeenhurt.Andthat’sthecruxiveness.
Thesaying“Fivea”
mayrollofftheto'sasshallowasitisshort.Forohing，it'sdhtimpossible.Foramissesthewholepointivehineedfiveihifet.Ratherthahemu，weodrawalihem，deliberatelyottoagainstthepersonwhodidthem，andmovingon.
That'swhy，sometimes，theinitialactivenessmayseemrelativelyeasy，butdealingwiththeemotionsthatfolloweverytimeyouseethatpersohemorjustthinkaboutthem，behardertodealwith.Truefiveao;it’saotionaltation.
Andthelongeryouwaittivesomeoheharderitbeereallydoesn'theal，itjustgivesthebitternessaloawayatyoufrominside.Ifyouwaitfhttime”
youmay.
&ionyoushouldaskyourselfbefintotackletheartivehis:Howmanyofusareeverpletelyiiion?
So，mywife，elia，andIboughtapieceofcheap，flat-paeveure.Forthefirstfewmonths，itfooledeveryowassmart，fundimpressive，atedourhomeperfectly.Butastimerolledby，theveneersloeelattheedges.Itdidn'tcreatethesameimpressioleastitwasbeihefactisthat，likeitornot，behindoursmartveneer，we'realljustchipboard.Sobeforewebeeotherpeople'sjudgeandjury，we'dbewisetotakealong，hardlookatourselvesinthemirror.Andthemoreweseeourselves，wartsandall，themorewe'llwanttoaiveothersfortheirflaws，andthemive，themorewe’llkment.
Wouldyhtorhappy?Fetasatisfyiion.Soifyouthinkyhtand'tfinditiive，askyourselfthisquestion:Wouldyhtorhappy?
&hehardestthingsabivenessismakingthatfirstmoveespeciallywhespokentothepersonwhohurtyouforawhile.Butrememberthey'llprobablybehappytohearfromyou.Theymighteveyou'vedohey'vewaodoforyears.Butkeepinmindythisforyoujustasmuchasthem，sodoiftheydon'treactasyouhoped.
Ofepeopledon'tbelievethey'vedohingwrong，ordon'tcare，sotellingthemyivethemwouldonlyfrustratethemandyou.Butthatdoesn'tmeanyou'tfindfivenessi.Infact，that'swhattruefiveinggerandhurt，beihenedandmovingon.
Themoreyounurtureyourresehemoreunhappyyou’llbee.Unlessyoulearhe“living，you'llalwaysremainaviotjustofpeoplewho'ved，butalsoofyourowions.
Fputsyouintrol.Hhitis，thealternativeisfarworse.Thephrase“Fiveusoursins，thoughwerefusetivethosewhosinagainstus.”
doesheBible.Andthere'sareasonforthat.
宽恕不仅在婚姻中需要，在与子女、朋友、同事、邻居，甚至陌生人的相处中也同样需要。
事实上，缺少宽恕，人际关系就无法持续。
宽恕他人不是可有可无的善举，而是维系良性人际关系、促进身心健康的必要因素。
有些人认为，自己屡屡受创，对伤害自己的人很难宽恕。
然而，正是这些受伤至深的人，更急需宽恕。
这看起来似乎有些矛盾，其实很简单，就像癌症能夺去人的生命一样，仇恨也会给人以致命的打击。
如果不尽快根除，它就会滋生蔓延，最终使那些执迷于仇恨的人命丧黄泉。
如果我们不原谅，我们就不会康复。
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